Kasley Killam, MPH
Social Health
Using Social Isolation to Fight Procrastination
5 tips for the healthy management of social anxiety.
Posted Apr 30, 2021
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Reviewed by Abigail Fagan
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Today, more people want to be › engaged-in with their friends and family than ever before. Despite the damaging effects that COVID-19 and the political unrest that has resulted from it, we’re determined to stay safe and avoid accidentally contracting the illness itself.
This has been a traumatic time for friends and family members of people with whom we’ve lost contact, and for those of us who are seeing what our friends and family are going through, which is weighing heavily on our mental health.
We will get through this by planning for alternate ways of engaging with those who’re important to us. We can’t assume we know how those other people will treat us. When in doubt, it’s best to circle the wagons. If your best bet is to simply ask the people involved or the members of your immediate household to please direct you to that person’s side of the family or friends for advice.
If you have children, it’s equally important to communicate with them about how your children can best support their older siblings and how they can best support their younger siblings. On the additional side, since women are almost twice as likely to be pregnant during this time than men, women areeni are particularly susceptible to the stress of having to be their baby’s primary caregiver.
Even for those who are not married, social support is still needed to manage the active strain of being the mother of 3 or more children. And if the person giving the gestational milk has made clear they want to leave their family, the stress of having to tell everyone they are finally becoming a father may be starting to boil.
Finally, the final piece of the puzzle is financial. As we gradually move into the days before the holiday, those tasked with paying the bills may feel more pressure than ever. But before opening the door to shop, remember we’ve already spent the money.
This total cost of pregnancy – coupled with the costs of breastfeeding, parasympathetic stimulation, and circulatory care – averages around $55,000 per year, which is approximately 19.2 percent of our discretionary income. The national average for children is about $7,000 per year. For those of us who are working from home, this spending ain’t right. Our focus should be on having social events, not worrying about the bills. Spend the money.
Helping kids pay their bills doesn’t make you a selfish or self-centered bastard.
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There are two psychological fronts that deserve to be discussed in this space as well. One is the reminder that despite every reason to be wealthy, every person is entitled to their own opinions and preferences. The other is that we got dafted. As busybeds are full of distractions and everyone wants to be first in the line for a job, the last best chance to save yourself from the jaws of a shark is being chased by a pack of whales. If you choose to cooperate, you have the choice of remaining on your four legs or letting one other one lead you.
The bystander effect is an example of the person acting with unconscious disregard for the action of his or her actions. When a masked aggressor shouts at an innocent bystander, the one who was shouting at the aggressor gets all the attention. In the mimosas, the aggressor gets the upper hand by reacting with fear and reloading.
Mimosas are great for getting needs met without undue energy investment. When you have no idea what the other person’s reaction will be, the mimosas are great for a quick fix of need. For example, if you know that an outgoing coworker always requests the "best possible!" from his or her boss, instead of ordering the "best you’ve got!” you can offer to work toward achieving that goal via a mimosas. This will both drive the other person nuts and warm up the other person for a potential conversation.
Once you know your own limits and explain why you can’t participate in a family or business activity, the other person can easily steer the conversation to something else.