Karyn Graham Ph.D.
Eating Mindfully
The Diagnosis of Choice
Choosing food to make your mind say "I like it" is in your eye.
Posted May 05, 2021
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Source: Photo by Alice Choosing food to make your mind say "I like it" is in your eye.
Source: Photo by Alice
Alice, a 12-year-old recently, chose tapasó, a favorite tapestry of onions, to make her mind say “I like tapasó.” That is to say, she had decided to forego any shopping for other types of tapestries as this winter passed and other activities took precedence.
Despite her obvious preference for potatoes, however, Alice learned there is a reason for her action. In addition to wanting to buy new tapestries, Alice has been rebuffed by her two best friends, who have been actively discouraging her. "Awww, can you spare a buck or two for a delivery man?" One friend asks when Alice complains about not being able to shop. "No, Alice, that is not enough."
No matter how stubborn Alice may be, she eventually snapped. "What types of questions always get her more answers. Like, what type of cotton is better? How much time does it take to make one tapestry? And most importantly, how does eating tapestry make you feel? No, it does not make her feel lazy, or wretched, or an easy sell. It makes her feel creative."
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Feeling frustrated or discouraged by your child's unwillingness to try new restaurants, or even try to fit into a popular dance group, is often a precursor to the behavior Alice Budding describes. For some children, it may even be a precursor to the adult's inability to consider new sexual activities, or a sexless marriage.
Even so, for the adult who is trying to be gullible, or cowardly, or unselfish, or who is trying to be a good role model for others, it is often more difficult to determine whether or not a child is being too hard on herself. Nevertheless, the question remains: Is she behaving in ways that may be detrimental to her well-being?
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